Wednesday, October 21, 2009

These are the words of Oprah that every woman should read...............If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop Trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary......not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.. You reap what you sow...

Monday, October 19, 2009

Take your time

This world is chaotic all right. But as students of life we swirl amongst ourselves, forming rhythms and melodies that will make it worth while sometimes. The balance of raw innocence teeters deviant’s evil, and for those of us who forgive ourselves and learn from our past mistakes, we grow...........move on. Serenity is handed to us in tiny fragments, little at a time its up to us to recognize when the chorus is being played. There grows in city sidewalks single flowers that stick out telling us we are here if you ever take the time to notice. For single seconds in our short lives we may have that opportunity to come of age, and crawl out of shell. Centered utopias, and become one with patience and purity!!!!

Friday, August 14, 2009

My heart is yours

I have two arms to give to you.

To hold you and caress to do my

best to bring you a bit of happyness.

I have two lips I speak soft words

meaningful and tru. To tell you

what it means to me, to share my

life with you. I only have one heart to give.

But its your my drear.

For you make life a paradise,

whenever you are near.

Since I met you

I have been so happy

except that i find myself worrying all the time

worrying that I might dissapoint you

worrying that our relationship might end

worrying that you might not be happy

worrying something might hapen to you

I have fallen in Love with you

and I guess i worry so much because

I care about you so much.


Although were apart

I'm never apart from you

Eventhough a great

distance separates us

Everyday I sense that

we are together

I feel your arms holding

me with so much love

in daylight dreams

For a love like ours can

never truley be separated

Forgetting you is something

I cannot do for you are

a party of me.


I look into your eyes and quickly turn way.

I try to talk to you but i don't know what to say.

I laugh at the jokes and I'm concerned when there's hurt.

I always look out for you.

I am alert

I'm afraid to show my feelings

afraid you don't feel them too.

But sometimes i want to pull you aside

and tell you i care for you.

Maybe one day I'll tell you

how much i care but right now

I'm embarrassed to shy to tell you

how I feel.